Nicole Freiss. Owner and Creator of Lollies and Lace Boutique
With so much social media out there portraying the perfect girl, I feel as mothers we can find ourselves sucked in and think that we have to be that. We think we need to have perfect bodies and beautiful clothing and children that are an accessory. We never see the real struggles and we think from the picture that it is attainable. I know, because I am one of those girls that looks at these picture perfect squares and wishes that my life was like that. It only creates discouragement in me because I can never live up to that girl in the picture. The reality of it is that my house is rarely clean, my kids barely cooperate and most of the time my clothes don't match or could use a wash. I can barely keep up.
You may wondering why I would share this. For some time I have felt impressed to use social media to inspire and empower mothers. I have been so scared to do this. I don't like anyone to see me. I like to be invisible most of the time. It seems like the easiest way to hide my imperfections. from the outside looking in you may think I have life together and that I'm really successful. But the reality of it is, I'm not. I started this business because of an impression. It pushed me here. I was afraid. A girl like me doesn't do this kind of thing. I tried to get anyone to do it with me, but in the end I was alone. Yet, somehow here I am. I did it! I still look back at this journey and can't believe it. I have failed so many times, but want you to know that the next day a new idea would come and it would work! I also didn't do this alone. I had many come to help. I really believe they were sent to help me. They were also mothers that wanted to make a little extra money and stay home with their kids. It felt incredible to be part of their journey too.
So many of us are just trying to survive and find purpose in our lives. We all have things we are working on and we are trying to become better. We probably think that we fail all the time. But we don't give up, and because of that we will never fail!
Gordon B. Hinckley said, "The course of our lives is not determined by great awesome decisions. Our direction is set by the little day-to-day choices which chart the track on which we run"
Those words give me so much hope. I sometimes look at past experiences and cringe. I wish that I could change the girl I used to be, but I realize that girl isn't the same today. She is better and stronger and can conquer what that girl long ago could not. I love that girl from my past because she made me into the girl I am today!
I hope that you come here often to be uplifted, and to feel empowered. I will be posting many stories like mine and so much more. I know this is something I need to do. My hope is that we can band together in a world that can sometime be very scary, to share our imperfections and see our growth. We need to know that we are not alone. We are beautiful and our roles as mothers should be celebrated! I love my children. They are a lot of work. But in the end, I hope to raise great human beings that will someday parent their own children. That is more important to me than the perfect body, beautiful home, and gorgeous clothing.